Dear Dreamers –
Happy Season of Light. Thanks for waiting out a dry spell while I worked on about a dozen other dream projects and never quite got a newsletter finished.
But good things happened!
Ta-Da! Updated website! I am grateful to the sibling team of Elizabeth and Ben Blue, coach and techie, who kept me going and taught me so much about putting my work into the world. Take a look: www.firebynight.net. One of their brilliant ideas was to make my “Field Guide to Dreaming” a free download! You can get it on the website, or just click here:
I have had the best time ever this fall with my dream groups, and I’ve been thinking a lot about what makes a dream group such a powerful, lively, and meaningful experience. Mostly, it boils down to these two things:
Dreams are given to be shared, because they matter.
And we discover, when we share our dreams, how much we matter to each other.
Deep, meaningful relationships can be hard to come by, and dreams – arising from the shared unconscious –can connect us instantly.
But only when you’re ready. When you’re in a circle of people you trust. When you’re sure you’ll be heard and respected. When you know everyone understands that dreams aren’t puzzles to solve, but encounters to honor. When nobody will try to tell you what your dreams mean, but everyone will let your dream inhabit them, body, mind and soul. When they speak honestly from their experience of your dream to shed light through gentle questions, intuitions, feelings, and associations. When you feel your own “aha” and share it as much - or as little - as you wish. When you think of ways to play with it and integrate its wisdom in your waking life, and if you want some suggestions, they can help.
You can share dreams with your friend or spouse or the lady behind you in the Kroger line, and that is really helpful, even if all they do is listen. (See Tips below.) You can share dreams with your therapist or spiritual director or with me.
But to take the dream into a group of dreamers is to “build community, intimacy, and support” as Jeremy Taylor writes. Ultimately, you find yourself “strengthened, liberated, revitalized and deeply supported and affirmed….Group work with dreams regularly generates ongoing relationship that become sources of deep emotional and psychological support of tremendous benefit to all involved.”
The magic of a dream group is not only that they help you understand your dreams and your self. Nor is it just that you help the rest of the group in the same way. The deeper magic of a dream group is that together we open ourselves to the whole-making, soul-making powers of the Self that orchestrates the unconscious into stories, images, and feelings. And those stories, images, and feelings carry energies that link us beneath the ego’s dominion, into the realm of the sacred. Beyond the fear and tensions that separate us, we find ourselves in each other, and through each other, and we discover something new and meaningful every single time we open up a dream together.
It’s hard to describe exactly, which is why I offer a lot of free classes and demos.
Come see for yourself: In January, I’m hosting two free intro workshops at Glendale Methodist and will also teach a 2-part series at USN Evening Classes. Find details below, and on the” What’s New” page of the website. http://www.firebynight.net/whats-new.html
If you have questions, please send me an email and we can make a time to talk. I would love to see you there.
In this season of the celebration of Light, I’m grateful to the communities that bring us light, and that welcome the light we bring. It takes courage, humility, vulnerability, and humor to show up and keep saying Yes to the wild, beautiful adventure of living in the both-and-more world that dreams open up for us. Thank you for being in it together.
Blessings of the darkness and of the light, and may you sense the love that surrounds us -